What is invitational language?
Invitational language is language that incorporates invitations and options rather than imperative style commands. In yoga, instructors might offer students options to choose from, or encourage students to notice how they feel and choose how to move (or be still) based on that.
Why use invitational language?
Particularly in a trauma informed context, making choices about how to move one's own body can help return a sense of control that is sometimes lost in trauma. In settings where people may be very new to yoga or to movement in general, it can also often feel more inclusive to have people choose between options rather than frame these as "modifications" of the "full expression". At a very basic level, different things feel good or appropriate to different people, and when our focus is on alignment, we might lose sight of that as instructors. Invitational language is a way to offer guidance but guide people to do what feels best to their body, without guiding everyone to do exactly the same thing at the same time.
I've come across the view - and agree! - that a teacher does not have to offer an option every single cue. It will often be enough to create an invitational environment, let students know you respect their ability to choose how to move, and then reflect that approach in your language and approach in general.
If you do choose an invitational approach, it makes sense to consider how other aspects of the environment and your teaching reflect this approach. For instance, although I don't offer hands on assists outside of yoga studio spaces, I do in my public/yoga studio classes - where I still try to create as invitational of an approach as possible. I don't think hands on assists are necessarily outside the scope of an invitational environment, but if I encourage students to choose the length of their warrior two stance based on how much intensity they'd like in their legs today, it makes sense to let them actually do that, rather than saying that but then coming over to assist someone deeper into the lunge.
These are examples of cues I have heard or used, to illustrate some differences between more traditional cues and more invitational cues. Obviously there is no one "right"way to teach, or words, phrases, grammatical structures I would consider "forbidden". Context matters! These are just examples.
Traditional cue: Close your eyes
Invitational cue: I invite you to close your eyes or lower your gaze.
Traditional cue: Fold as far as you can. Use your hands to grip your feet
Invitational cue: Fold any amount. See if you can feel gravity doing some of the work of the fold, maybe all of the work of the fold. If you're curious about more sensation in your hamstrings, grip something with your hands - your mat, your feet, your legs.
Traditional cue: Create a ninety degree bend in your front knee.
Invitational cue: Notice your front knee; check that it's right about over your ankle, rather than forward of it. Choose the length of your stance - a longer stance will usually bring more intensity to the legs, a shorter stance may feel more stable.
Traditional cue: Sink your hips lower in chair pose
Invitational cue: Draw your knees back in space so they stay behind your toes. If you're interested in more depth, draw your hips both back and down. Experiment with a lower seat, either stay or come back up!
In some bodies, it will feel good to ... in others...
In your own time...
We'll be here another three breaths or so, or finish when you feel done...